The Beatles. Iconic. I get by. So much music. Here is a portion of the lyrics to the song, “With a Little Help From My Friends” – written by John Lennon and Sir Paul McCartney:
“What would you think if I sang out of tune?
Would you stand up and walk out on me?
Lend me your ears and I’ll sing you a song
And I’ll try not to sing out of key
Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends
Mm, I get high with a little help from my friends
Mm, gonna try with a little help from my friends
What do I do when my love is away?
Does it worry you to be alone?
How do I feel by the end of the day?
Are you sad because you’re on your own?
No, I get by with a little help from my friends
Mm, get high with a little help from my friends
Mm, gonna try with a little help from my friends
Do you need anybody?
I need somebody to love
Could it be anybody?
I want somebody to love.”
Companionship, friendship, relationships
“With a little help from my friends.” What an awesome sentiment! Companionship, friendship, relationships. We are social creatures. But just like eye color, our social needs vary by individual. What is important to consider, however, is that life becomes much more complete for most people with the inclusion of daily socialization. There is bonding and connection. Finding commonality in thought and spirit.
Intimacies found in relationships
I maintain there are five different types of intimacies to be found in relationships but many, many relationships are without any type of intimacy. Those without I would consider very casual relationships such as a server at a restaurant or clerk in a store. That said, even those relationships may find intimacy on one of the five levels. Perhaps these levels are hierarchical. You can decide. I’m just a common man thinking out loud now. The five levels of intimacy I have identified are social, intellectual, emotional, spiritual and physical.
To compound the equation, there are likely degrees of intimacy at each of the five levels so, for example, you could have a casual social relationship with a low degree of intimacy or you could have a very close social relationship with a higher degree of intimacy.
Just my thoughts
Just my thoughts. Not actually sure how I ended up here. Life is strange. Anyway, I find that I have relationships with people that mainly fall into the intellectual and spiritual camp. To each their own. I’m kind of a solitary guy – don’t really socialize much at all. Probably has a lot to do with the concept of “you are what you were when.” I’m not going to delve into that today. I’ll let you figure it out on your own.
Closing
I hope you enjoy today’s meanderings. I don’t have a list to follow for blog topics. Pretty much what I wake up with. Like a song in your head. By the way, I included a few random photos in the post for your visual entertainment. I have all images for sale at RedBarnProject.com. Contact me here if you have any questions. Peace.
